Results: Inappropriate Transference

Transference is defined: "when an individual transfers feelings and attitudes from a person or situation in their past on to a person or situation in the present, based on familiarity or similarities, even if the slightest. Are you familiar with this term?

I believe that the most negative form is when someone has unresolved issues from their childhood with a parent and brings this into current relationships. So it can be like an emotional time warp. Smelling perfume on someone else that an abusive parent used can trigger feelings from one's past. Projection would be the anger and transference would be when the emotions are transfered to the person in your present day life. Do you think this has happened to you?

Many relationships platonic and intimate suffer because of projection and transference, thus bombarding someone with anger that a parent deserves , not a partner or friend. Have you experienced this in a relationship, as the receiver of the emotion?

One example, would be when my spouse and I would clean the apartment on the weekend. Any little thing that I said or did that slightly reminded him of his mother caused him to lash out at me. In essence, it was like 6 people being in the marriage; me and my parents, and him and his parents. Do you believe you have experienced this in a relationship?

Have you ever had to tell someone I am not your Father or I am not your Mother?

In "License to Wed" starring Robin Williams as Reverend Frank, a couple must be counseled before they get the green light for marriage. Check off what is true for you: